2013 was scary enough as it could be. Hopes and disappointments played their role equally well.
It wasn’t bad all the time. It wasn’t good all the time either.
Good part is we made it through.
As 2013 drew the curtain and disappeared in the dawn of december 31st, I feel happy to see us on the other side with fewer injuries, brighter smiles, still pulling the wagon of hopes and dreams tired but determined, with sighs of relief, taking deep breaths to face 2014, getting another shot in making a happier us.
Welcome 2014.. We are ready for you!!
Every parent makes mistakes. Some small ones and some big ones. I think the mistakes a parent leaves behind ultimately makes the kid a better parent. May be its a chain which finally leads to the evolution of the best parent. But in the eyes of who!! Because there is no right definition of right and wrong I came across which is right for everyone.
When I think of my kid, I see myself as the kid. I want my child to have everything which I couldn’t have, which I wanted to have. And so I want my child to have the life he wants not what I want for him to have. With that comes the responsibility of accepting, loving,understanding and getting along with his dreams, desires and what not.
I know its going to be difficult as time passes by. Because making houses and airplanes with building blocks, reading books, running after birds -those will remain his favorites only for now. After 10 years, 20 years it all will change and then comes the real challenges for me. And raising upto the challenge is the exam every parent has to face and succeed.
I know for a fact that, when my child share the same feeelings as I am having now, that’s the hardest part. Because then its about my mistakes as a parent. Honestly, I would like to know those as and when it happens but again that’s not going to happen. Anyways I know the mistakes I make with my kid will make him a better parent than me in his own eyes.
Quit kidding and be practical. We celebrate Independence day every year without fail. And that I don’t understand, If you are to keep the female figures inside your house “safe” what kind of independence are we celebrating?
Then again, can you ensure safety inside house??? The Delhi gang rape got the most attention but the same day I read another rape news happened breaking in to a house and another one happened in a daycare. I am pretty much sure that that child wasn’t wearing any provocative dress asking to be raped.! And even if the 41 year old was wearing provocative outfit she was in her house for god sake!
So in my opinion, problem is not girls going out or girls wearing dress qualifying to be called as provocative. Well the X chromosome always get the attention regardless of age, appearance and outfits.
Or did I misunderstood the meaning of Independence? Was it giving a birth right to the men in the country to rape the women (not just women anyone with X chromosome, well that’s all they need as an excuse to rape.) in the country and forbidding the foreign men from doing so? It was a terrible lie when we repeated “All Indians are my Brothers and Sisters” !!
I will still say girls need to go out more and more and much more particularly when it is dark. That’s the solution I see. And of course parents of sons, tell your children No means No and teach them to respect the opposite sex.
2. For those who think capital punishment will somehow mysteriously erase abuse against women.
Seriously!!! Do you think an Independent and developing nation like India doesn’t have enough punishments in the book named already?? Its just we are not quite good in carrying out them effectively, that’s what I think. I don’t know where the already punished people go or do for a living. Yea, I agree we need a database of the criminals but not to shame them but for our safety. When someone is released from prison a letter should be passed in the concerning neighborhoods to make the citizens aware. Something like that may be.
3. Giving compensation to the victims.
Now, this is going out of control. How is that going to stop abuse? How is that going to help the victim forget the wounds and get along with life? Government can find a number of other ways to help the citizen. But in order to be eligible for anything first you need to be abused and humiliated doesn’t get my support. With this compensation offer the Government is telling us that they can’t do anything to stop abusers and criminals so please co-operate and then we will pay you for your time and trouble. And for me that is offensive. Ultimately giving compensation is asking the victim “what is your fee” as Anisur Rahman said.
I never think men are always culprit. What about those women who just want money. Please make laws and rules considering the fakers as well. We don’t want all men to be tarnished as rapists and molesters.
Above all I strongly believe its up to the parents. If they give love and affection in desired amount and raise good kids society will be a safe place. And in a society where families lack in giving proper care to their kids, well you are in the making of a public nuisance.
Hope you got my point.
Its no wonder I am torn
When hope had to bid good bye
Because that was all I had
Now U are only a memory- bitter sweet memory
Now U will live only in my memory!!
When we meet I want me to be pleased for seeing you. I want me to say “Hey there, Nice meeting you.” I want to come with you happily not reluctantly, not because I have to , but because its my time to be with you, like after finishing highschool everyone wants to go to college! At the same time I don’t want to come with you because I don’t want to live. I want me to be happy and contend when we meet.
For me you are not covered in black dress with spooky look and crooked smile. For me you are that handsome fella every girl wants another glimpse of! When I am done with my last breath , when the last ounce of life vanishes from my body , when my soul suddenly feel so strange and new as in freshman year you can make an entrance in a not so scary way. I hate when people scares me for fun. Considering that we have to start our journey from my death we have to maintain a good relationship from the start. So please don’t be mean to me. Once I am there I am looking forward to meet those who had already joined you. I hope you are treating them well!
I know you are the only truth of life. The only certain thing. But you are the dreaded one. I think its because of the way we human beings meet you. It looks to me that when you want to have a party you just crash into a plane or bus or a building!! Is that so?? You do know that when you take a bunch of people with you another huge bunch of people are left lonely, sad and depressed. You know, the feeling of loneliness is heavily associated with your presence.
Anyways I would like to believe that life itself is a journey to meet you. I don’t want to believe that you are the judge for all the deeds we have done.I want to believe that its good there. Like living our dream! Like I have a dream of flying up high into the sky and to hold a shining star in my palm. In real life fireflies make my this dream come true. May be there I could actually touch a star!!! 🙂
Whatever is it I know one day comes and we will meet; willing or not, scared or not!! And I sure want to know what its going to be like. I hope to have a nice time there wherever it is!!
Note : Please don’t consider this as my death note. This is just a letter to my death.